Sunday, 31 January 2016

Flashback to India.

It's coming up to 2 years since my last visit to India, and I'm missing it's comforts and blessing more than my words can express. So I want to use this sadness in a positive way and reflect on my life in India so far, and I want to start by going right back to the start.Some of you may remember my story but for those who don't I traveled to India in 2013 a very young and vulnerable girl, much to everyone's disagreement but I went and followed my heart.
I will never forget the very first emotions I experienced on that flight to India, I was petrified it all felt surreal. I was overcome with every emotion some very unexplainable but here goes...

Taking that flight to India was the scariest yet more powerful and rewarding thing I've done in my life so far. I didn't know what to expect and because of others inflicting doubts In my thoughts I didn't even have any guarantees of what could happen in my reach. I had told Gautam many times that I wasn't coming, and hat I had changed my mind.

My very first flight to India was an experience that will forever be with me. It wasn't until the morning of my flight that I 100% made the decision to go. I had to get a bus from Scotland to London. My bus was late because of bad snow and I wasn't even sure if my flight would depart. When the bus eventually arrived I said my goodbyes and left. 20 minutes out of town there was an overturned lorry full of chickens, it took hours to clear the way. I had explained to the bus driver about an hour of waiting that I wasn't far from home and I had a flight to catch, he told me not to worry, after another hour the bus drivers legal time limit to drive was over and someone was coming to swap places with him and he would be driven down to Leeds, he kindly offered for me to go with him where he would make sure I caught a bus on time to reach my flight. I had already make a packed with my mum that if I made it to London and my flight wasn't cancelled then I would go, if not it wasn't meant to be. I called her to tell her I was getting a lift as this was another risk I was taking. I reached Leeds fine and as promised the bus driver assisted me to the right bus. He also explained to the bus driver the whole situation and the bus driver ensured he would do all he could to reach London on time,I will be forever great full, but that was not the end. 

There was a lot of traffic and according to the time there wasn't much chance of making it either. The bus driver had bypassed a couple of stops due to already being behind schedule, just for me. I met a few lovely people on the bus that day who also knew my story, and offered their assistance. I was supposed to get a bus from the bus stop to the airport this wasn't going to happen and I was going to have to take the underground. These lovely girls assisted me on the underground until the last stop before the airport. The whole experience of the underground is a blur it all happened so fast. All I remember is them girls and having to swap off the tube into a different one on my own, as it was named wrong and going onto another stop. I had 10 whole minutes to get to my check in desk, I run like the wind and I made it, I checked in and was assisted straight through security and onto my already fully boarded bar me flight. I will never forget it. 

It was a very long journey full of many emotions, landing in India I didn't know what to expect. I went through security I'm Amritsar and I collected my bags, I was the only white person in my flight and in the airport at that time. It's not like an airport inside that I've ever been in before, there's not loads of people standing around waiting on their loved ones in fact there was very few, and Gautam was nowhere to be seen. I glanced out the window and seen a huge crowd of people none of which I recognised, majority of them wearing a turban. Something I wasn't familiar with at all. I wondered if some celebrity or someone with importance was coming and that was security for them? In that airport I didn't know what to do, everyone was leaving but no one was there to collect them? Then I realised as the crowd got a little smaller (but still huge) that they were people's loved ones, how strange that everyone waits outside and not inside, it still puzzles me. I decided to walk outside...alone. 

All eyes on me and I couldn't see Gautam at all. I eventually spotted this huge bouquet of flowers and behind this beautiful bouquet was Gautam. I had never been so thrilled to see someone I knew. I reached and gave him a huge cuddle, something I knew wasn't completely appropriate as everyone was touching each other's feet, Peri Pena, A ritual that is so beautiful and never expected to soon follow. I love the ritual and respect behind it. This was a very short trip to india, and in this short 3 weeks we became husband and wife, it's an experience I am completely blessed to have gone through.

lots of love


Sunday, 17 January 2016

BOO! its me, Gori Rani

Hello it's me, Rebecca and i'm back Better, Stronger and Happier than ever before. Thanks for stopping by! I apologize for my absence.

Since I last blogged so much has changed and/or improved. 
All smiles

Yes i'm still in ireland and it turned out better than I could have ever hoped!  

Saturday, 6 September 2014

The Truth About Long Distance and Relationships!

This post is completely my opinion from my own experience in a long distance relationship.

I have now been in a long distance relationship for a year and eight months, which is a year and eight months too long! 
When we started dating we never imagined the distance would come between us but we certainly did not imagine it would come between us for so long.

At the Beginning 

From my point of view, LDR are not easy and cause a really big strain on your relationship. Your whole life revolves around it from our different time zones to our "normal routine" talking to each other first thing in my morning and last thing in his night is essential. We are fighters and we fight for what we want, and no matter how hard it gets we get through it. Our relationship is by no means perfect with thanks to the stress of the distance arguments occur and cause more strains and frustration with that said we NEVER go to bed on an argument.
With thanks to todays technology we have the ability to communicate in many ways, we both have smart phones, Iphones to be precise... so we are completely blessed with the variety of apps there is. 

The apps we use:

  1. Whatsapp, which we use for text messages, voice messages, pictures and videos.
  2. Facetime for free video and voice calls
  3. Hike, a new app we started using for text messages.
  4. couple, an app with joins only us together where you can send messages, paint each other pictures and thumbkiss.

Other apps I would personally recommend but we don't use often are tango for messages and video/voice calls, viber for messages and voice calls and skype for video calls, we don't use them because of connection problems but they are great apps!
For voice calls I have an international calling sim which is cheap to call international countries, the sim card is LYCAMOBILE, but I also used to use LEBARA.


 In my opinion not everyone understands how hard they actually are and how much they affect your life and mental state. I often here people say that I look to happy to have that much stress going on or on the other hand more negatively people say thats not stress you will understand what stress when you are older. These opinions are valid but not always true.
Long distance relationships can leave you feeling very lonely, crying uncontrollably and getting angry and frustrated for unnecessary reasons. You can find yourself having good days and bad days, in my case we didn't start with distance so we always focus on our main goal to be together and this never leaves our mind.

If you are in a long distance relationship and are looking for advice I would recommend for you to:
  1.  find a way for you to be together, first and foremost, I know this is not always possible but truly ask yourself is it possible?
  2. make as much time as possible for each other to communicate
  3. do things together with technology, watch movies, play games ask each other questions and share memories remembering the good times
  4. visit each other if possible
  5. always remember the true reasons of your relationship and don't let anyone else question it
  6. keep a strong support network
  7. don't let yourself feel lonely there are a lot of people out there in similar situations everyone has a story to tell (instagram is my saviour for this)
LDR are not easy, if i'm completely honest with you I block out the distance this keeps me happy and content when I let the distance get to me I can't take it and have to go to India.

Always smile and be happy... remember everything is going to be okay in the end if its not okay its not the end!
This post was recommended by a dear friend mak... check out her blog at

lots of love 

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lots of love

Wednesday, 23 July 2014

The Ups and Downs of Airports When In a Long Distance Relationship

why airport's are the best but worst places of my life so far...

Growing up airports always meant we were going somewhere on holiday, and within a few hours I would be lay on a beach with unlimited cokes and all you can eat ice-cream... BLISS.As I grow older I soon came to realise I was oblivious to what was actually going on in the airport world and its not all happy occasions.
I have travelled a good few places in my life, my mum has packed enough of my suitcases to have a degree in it! I've been blessed enough to encounter the happiness and sadness of an airport. Airports for me are full of happy reunions and tearful goodbyes.

Not long after my eighteenth birthday I first traveled to india... I left from 


when I left heathrow I was scared not happy and not sad I was relieved I caught my flight on time and petrified as I did not know what I was letting myself in for. I had to stop in Asia to get my connecting flight to Amritsar.

When I arrived in Amritsar airport, I soon shared with the crowd my overwhelming emotions, I leaped into Gautams arms with tears of joy and happiness.

from then on my journey to India I have gone through a number of different airports including 
New Delhi
All of these Airports have seen my tears and happiness. I could never describe the feeling you have when you leave your loved ones at an airport it really is something you have to feel and experience your self and vice-versa its impossible to describe the feeling you get when you wrap your arms around the ones you love after not seeing them for so long!

I am writing this post on the exact date six months ago I left my husband at Amritsar airport...

And hopefully the next trip to the airport is a happy one!

lots of love

Saturday, 19 July 2014

I'm Back Feeling Better Than Ever!


wow has it really been 3 months since I abandoned my blog? I apologize to all. Its been a crazy three months to say the least, but when I look back so much has changed but I am no further forward! 

so right now as some of you may know I am in...

I have came to Ireland to work as an Au-pair. I have been here 4 weeks on monday, its went so quickly but as they say time flies when you're having fun. I am the an Au-pair to a lovely family consisting of a single mother and her 4 children. Moving to Ireland was a huge decision but a decision easy made none the less. 

Gori Rani 

Not much has changed about myself i'm still in much the same position. YES I'm STILL in a LDR. YES I still am wearing my beautiful choora.

I also set a goal for myself to grow my hair and i'm very pleased with the outcome so far...

life in Ireland is good and I plan to stay here for as long as I can guarantee my future that I can see and possibly plan, because you never know what's around the corner. 

I've set new goals for myself which are starting very shortly or in the process of. One being to cut down on fizzy juice! I will never cut out fizzy juice but I definitely need to cut down the amount I drink of it and i can proudly say I have nearly halved the amount I would drink at home! Secondly I am about to challenged weight loss, since my husband has gone back home i've really let myself go, I know im fine the way I am blah blah blah... but i've decided I am no longer happy with my weight and I am taken this opportunity in the beautiful country side to try and tone up! thirdly I am trying to be happy and positive in every situation i face, my future is looking bright and I no longer want to be sad because i have so much to look forward too!

I defiantly have been blessed with the luck of the Irish!

Thanks for reading 

Lots of Love

Friday, 11 April 2014

Date Nights in Jalandhar

Gautam lives in one of the oldest cities of punjab, Jalandhar which is now my second home.  

Jalandhar, Punjab.

When I was in Gautam and I went out every night and most days to a variety of different places. I love Jaldanhar theres so much to do! Gautam and I's first day out in india alone was to Pushpa Gujrai Science City. 

A part of science city.

Science city is a place for learning, but its also very picturesque. It was a lovely sunny day, there was a lot of children there out on there school trips and all of them were shocked to see a Gori and they all sat and smiled and waved, so i smiled and waved right back at them. Science City is in a special place in my heart as this was mine and Gautam's frequent "get away"

Most night's we went out for dinner, as when I didn't like what was cooked Gautam would take me out for something to eat. I never want to eat meat in my indian home so I always ate out. this would vary between fast food places or restaurants in Jalandhar.

 KFC in model town
Haveli is my favourite restaurant in the whole world, its about a twenty minute drive from Gautam's home as its just outside Jalandhar. It is a traditional indian restaurant which is vegetarian.

Inside Haveli
Often we went to the cinema and watched Hindi or English movies. 
Inside PVR cinema's in the MBD mall
even just a walk around the shopping mall

things to do in and around Jalandhar are endless! Majority of places are modern and welcoming to an outsider.
Being in a Long Distance Relationship means you have to sacrifice all these things. which never comes easy to the heart! these are just simple things in life, as much as money is required to do all these nice things the majority of the things we actually do together are priceless!

lots of love